Do you feel like your the only one who feels the way you do, like no one understands you?!
Like your constantly struggling to connect, leaving you feeling isolated?
Fist of all, you’re not alone, in fact, all Empaths experience this feeling of isolation and loneliness. It’s actually an imperative part of our journey.
I’m going to give you perspectives that will change your thoughts about feeling isolated as well as a life changing way to form real, authentic, supportive connections!
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So remember this, when your allowing yourself to get caught up and eaten up, by your work!
Does understanding your “why” change your feelings about what you’ve been experiencing?
Something I hear allot with my clients, is this feeling like they don’t even belong to their own family. That they are so different from them, that they like the “black sheep” of the family, which makes this feeling of isolation, feel foundational. Let me help you understand something, this feeling of not belonging to your family or that there is some type of separation there, that’s your intuition. Your not like the rest of your family, in fact you came here specifically to help this “family” break their karmic cycles. You “black sheep” of the family, are their angel, you are different, that’s what they needed, something different.
When our souls excepted this mission, we also selected the family dynamic that would push our souls to evolve the fastest, the family that would cause the most compression, the most pressure that would cause you to awaken into the diamond that you are… RAPIDLY!!
I can not stress this enough… As an empath, we absolutely MUST have regular doses of alone time. We have to take time to decompress, reflect and re energize. More importantly Being alone gives you the opportunity to develop self awareness and understand what your energy truly feels like, all by itself. Alone time is an opportunity and a very important and powerful one at that, one you should never take for granted.
Have you been taking your alone time for granted or are seizing every moment of the opportunity to learn everything you can about yourself?!
Here’s the thing, having addicuit alone time is imperative. That’s just the beginning of it, because the truth is, every empath will have to walk there personal Empath journey alone. It’s a necessary and enviable truth, but it does not have to be a lonely one.
And I’m going to teach you how.
If you have seen my videos on The EMPATHIC GANGSTER YouTube Channel, you know that I love to take the things that we complicate the shit out of and simplify them.
Often Empaths feel alone because they think that no understands them and that they are the only ones who feel this way about the world.
I can’t tell you how many times in my life I’ve thought to myself, “am I living in the twilight zone, what the fuck is happening?!”
Well, I’m here to tell you that you are not alone and you are actually right where you are suppose to be, because I’m currently building a family for you, right here, right now, as we speak. [and over on Instagram so make sure when your done here, come join the family!]
So now that your limiting belief of being the only one who feels this way… is burst!!
So what causes this feeling of loneliness?
Here’s the truth of the matter, retreating, disconnecting, suffering in silence, those are choices and they are all actions…
If you are not enjoying the out come of your actions ie loneliness, then intentionally pivot, do the opposite.
The truth is we crave connection, it’s in our cells to do so.
The places in the world where people live the longest and are the happiest are the cultures that prioritize and nurture their connections.
Spending quality time with those who see, hear and value you creates a deep connection of belonging.
So I ask you, are you making connection a priority?!
Now, obviously as an empath it is trickier to find those “who get us”, who we “vibe with” and who want to help us grow. So make sure your putting yourself in places that finding these connections are more likely. Like this family :] Go to functions, events and places that make your soul light up! You are more likely to meet someone who you connect with at these types of events. Plus if this an event that is “right up your ally” your more likely to feel comfortable and confident, because these are your people, you have things in common!
I’m going to let you guys in on a little secret, I don’t just speak to speak. If I have a perspective or something to add to a conversation, I’ll do so. Besides that, my job as an Empath is to observe, to read and to connect patterns. I think sometimes we feel alone in social settings because we don’t know how to do “small talk” and it makes us feel uncomfortable… SO DON’T!
If you want to find your people fast, talk about real ass shit that your passionate about and they will hear you. All I have to say is “quality over quantity”, I know society told you this is a popularity contest but its not…It’s an authenticity contest.
Okay so you’ve found a couple of souls you connect with!! That’s amazing, but now what?!
Your probably thinking, I’ve had friends before, how is this different.
Well because now your going to be different… and the leader!
You are going to create a ritual with your new soul friends. Preferably weekly, where you all get together and you chat and you connect and you bond over the shit that you are into. You create something special, that is intentional and repeated, something you can count on! As the weeks and months go by, you will have created a connection with these souls that supports you, whether you are together or not.
When we ritualize it, it actually starts to expand our ability to bring kindness and love to the table. The ritual of the connection carries you through the hard times, because you know you have a connection waiting for you… every Wednesday night…
Think about it, as empaths we ritualize almost everything, so why would this be any different. We understand the value of ritual, it gives things deeper meaning, a deeper purpose, a deeper connection and there’s a reliable consistency.
So if we are able to do this with those who see, hear and value us, this space for loneliness, no longer exists.
As an Empath you will have to travel your journey alone at some point but to have this connection, supporting you, cheering for you, waiting for you… it will not be a lonely one.
Keep these 3 things in mind:
• Everything you are experiencing is happening for a reason, this includes loneliness,
THINGS DON’T HAPPEN TO YOU, THEY HAPPEN FOR YOU.
• Loneliness is designed to help you discover who you are and to stop looking outside yourself for your worth. It’s designed to serve a purpose, not to a be continuous state of pain. DO NOT CHOOSE TO SUFFER. CHOOSE TO THRIVE.
• It’s hard to be lonely, when you love the person you are alone with…
You should have a better understanding of why you feel so isolated, as well as some perspective shifts that should help you navigate your journey with more clarity and confidence.
Most importantly you should have an idea as to how to start creating true authentic supportive connection through ritual. Once your feeling good, connected and supported, you will want to continue to hon in more on your spiritual gift which is why I created “Raising Your Vibration”. It’s important that you start raising your vibration as you heal, this is how you will truly experience the magic that is in store.
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